By Robert Egbe
Bobrisky’s story is not easy to tell. The first problem is
deciding what pronoun to use. By the circumstances of his birth,
‘he’ is the right pronoun, but by what Bobrisky has chosen, ‘she’
is correct.
“Tani bro e? (Who is your bro?). I’m a fine
babe,” Bobrisky once replied a commentator who referred
to him as a man.
There is also no agreement on whether or not he is a
transvestite or just a crossdresser.
Who is Bobrisky?
A primary school mate said he had always behaved like a woman
trapped in a man’s body.
In a video, which was uploaded on YouTube on January 19, 2018, a
dark man sporting a white bathrobe on a white t-shirt, is sitting
on a brown sofa.
There is a gold chain around his neck and in his right hand is a
wad of N1,000 notes and a glass of wine.
He pulls out note after note with his left hand and places it on
the waist of a light-skinned dancer in a black tight-fitting
trouser and crop top, shaking a slim bottom in his face.
The man kisses the tips of his left palm and touches the
dancer’s waist excitedly before the video stops playing.
The video is titled ‘Bobrisky twerking for her sugar daddy’.
The dancer in the 11-second video is popular transvestite, Idris
Olanrewaju Okuneye, popularly known as Bobrisky, his name on social
media platform, Snap Chat.
Idris, from Ijebu Igbo in Ogun State, was born male on August
31, 1992 at Ebute Meta, Lagos Mainland.
He attended secondary school at the prestigious King’s College,
Lagos, before bagging a BSc from the University of Lagos
(UNILAG).
He was a very good dancer, choreographer and make-up artist at
the university. In May 2019, Bobrisky stated on his instagram
profile that his pronouns are “she” and “her”.
Going viral
It is not clear when Idris became the cross-dressing Bobrisky,
but he went viral in October 2016, when President Muhammadu
Buhari’s social media aide, Bashir Ahmad, pulled out of appearing
with him on a social media panel in Abuja.
“The organisers invited me to speak on the fact that people are
talking about Bobrisky,” the then 25-year-old told AFP.
He added: “Withdrawing wasn’t nice. In Nigeria, the majority of
people here judge you so fast.”
According to AFP, he often recounted online how his lifestyle
was funded by a rich, mystery man he referred to only as “bae.
A few years earlier, a video surfaced of Bobrisky being stripped
by the police of the female clothing he was wearing. Two sachets of
water – pseudo breasts – were pulled out of the low neck gown.
Controversies
Bobrisky, who turned 28 on Saturday, fled his Lekki, Lagos
neighbourhood to evade arrest following the deployment of policemen
to scuttle his planned birthday celebrations.
He had planned a birthday bash at the Pearls Gardens in Lekki
Phase 1 on Saturday and another at the Paradise Boat Club, Victoria
Island on Sunday.
But Police Commissioner Zubairu Muazu ordered the deployment of
water-tight security to ensure the party did not hold and also
arrest Bobrisky and other crossdressers or homosexuals who planned
to attend.
The Nation gathered that five suspected members of Bobrisky’s
club were arrested for breach of the public peace and
indecency.
According to the police, the government would not allow
continuous breach of existing laws, noting that allowing the public
display of actions that could corrupt young people was inimical to
national consciousness.
Earlier in the week, the Director-General of the National
Council for Arts and Culture, Otunba Olusegun Runsewe, threatened
to go after Bobrisky and others like him, describing the
cross-dresser as “a disgrace to the nation.” Bobrisky replied by
saying Runsewe was a small fry.
The police had earlier in the year warned all homosexuals to
flee the country or be dealt with in accordance with the Anti-Same
Sex Marriage Law which prescribes a 14-year jail term for all
persons involved in a homosexual relationship.
Former Public Relations Officer of the Zone 2 Police Command,
Mrs Dolapo Badmos, had said: “If you are homosexually inclined,
Nigeria is not a place for you. There is a law here that
criminalises homosexual clubs, associations, and organisations with
penalties of up to 14 years in jail.
“So, if you are a homosexual in nature, leave the country or
face prosecution. But before you say, ‘does this matter?’ Kindly
note that anything against the law of the land is criminal and all
crimes will be punished accordingly no matter how small you think
it is.”
What the law says
The law Badmos is referring to is the Same-Sex Marriage
(Prohibition) Act of 2013. It says a person who registers, operates
or participates in gay clubs, societies or organisations, directly
or indirectly makes a public show of same-sex amorous relationship
in Nigeria commits an offence and is liable on conviction to a term
of 10 years. Anyone convicted of entering into a same-sex marriage
contract or civil union faces up to 14 years imprisonment.
Pronouns controversy
Following the police’s raid, Nigerians on social media were
divided over the use of the pronoun he to refer to Bobrisky.
Bisi Alimi, a gay man and advocate for the lesbian, gay,
bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights cautioned that the right
pronoun for Bobrisky is ‘she’ and ‘her’.
“Dear #Nigeria allies, the correct pronoun for #Bobrisky is
“She/Her”. Using this will help reduce stigma and show that you
really care. You can’t use a wrong pronoun and say you are an
ally,” he tweeted.
“Just In: Bobrisky on the run as Police Storms. Shutdown venue
if his 27th birthday celebration in Lekki, chase away everyone,”
Iselaiye tweeted to which Ogunmuyiwa replied, “HER!!! Her pronouns
are she/her!!! And this us transmisogynistic violence.”
Another user, @whoislateef, mockingly asked, “So which cell will
they put Bobrisky Female cell: Naaaah Male cell: Honeymoon.”
What does the future hold for the like of
Bobrisky?
A 2017 survey by NOI Polls compared attitudes towards LGBT
people in Nigeria against a 2015 poll.
It found a seven per cent increase in acceptance of LGBT people,
and a nine per cent rise to 39 per cent of those surveyed who think
that LGBT people should be allowed equal access to public services,
such as healthcare, education and housing.
However, the poll showed a four per cent increase to 90 per cent
of Nigerians who support the criminalisation of same-sex
relationships, and no change in the proportion of Nigerians who
believe that the country would be a better place with no LGBT
people, also 90 per cent.
Will Nigerian society ever accept cross-dressing and other LGBT
lifestyles, such as Bobrisky’s? Only time will tell.
Culled from TheNation
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