My Family Cursed Me For Choosing A Man With Disability, Says Lady

Rose John, a 24-year-old lady, has narrated how she was
embarrassed by her family over her insistence on spending the rest
of her life with Monday Itu, despite his disability.

The spotlight had beamed on the lovebirds recently after they
were seen showing off lovely dance moves during the dedication of
their newborn baby in a now-viral video.

Speaking with BBC Pidgin^[1], the
mother of two explained that he met Itu when she was 19 and they
eventually got along in a serious relationship.

Rose said when she took him to her family house, they vehemently
opposed her choice of man for marriage, citing his disability.

“My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. We
started dating when I was 19-year-old. I was in senior secondary
school two (SS2) when I met him,” she said.

“The first time he talked to me, I turned down his advances. The
next day, he sent his friends to Ughelli, Delta state, where I was
living at the time to plead with me on his behalf. It was at that
point that I agreed to date him. After that, he came to meet me and
we got along in a serious relationship.

“When I took my boyfriend to my family house, they felt bad.
They even slapped and cursed me before chasing both of us away from
the compound.

“They were questioning why I chose to marry such person when
there is no one in the family with similar condition. So, they
insisted that I cannot marry the man but I told them that he is the
one that I want to spend the rest of my life with.”

Rose said she has no regret being in a relationship with Itu
despite the fact that he is not financially buoyant.

“I don’t see my husband as someone with disability or without
complete body. I have not had any regret being in a relationship
with him because he is caring, supportive, and knows how to make me
happy with sweet words. I don’t really consider the fact that he
has no money to give me,” she added.

On his part, Itu explained how Rose has been a blessing to him,
adding that his life would have been miserable without her.

“If my wife isn’t with me, life would have been miserable for
me. When she agreed to date me, I didn’t have money and it’s not
like I have much to give her even now, but she is still with me. I
can’t fathom what really makes her love me that much. It’s
something I cannot comprehend but I believe it’s God’s way of doing
things,” he said.

The 29-year-old disclosed that he was not born with his current
disability, noting that he discovered he could not walk again at
the age of four.

“My current situation wasn’t inborn. I was four years old when
it happened. My mother told me that while I was playing, I started
crying all of a sudden but nobody knew what happened to me. So, I
was rushed to the hospital where the doctor confirmed that I won’t
be able to work again because my two legs had seized,” he said.

According to him, the family survives on alms given to him,
proceeds from Rose’s groundnut business as well as support from her
mother.

“I call her my wife because she has given birth to children for
me. Anytime I have money, I would pay her bride price. My wife is
someone that knows how to advise me. The way she respects me makes
me love her the more,” he added.

Rose John, a 24-year-old lady, has narrated how she was
embarrassed by her family over her insistence on spending the rest
of her life with Monday Itu, despite his disability.

The spotlight had beamed on the lovebirds recently after they
were seen showing off lovely dance moves during the dedication of
their newborn baby in a now-viral video.

Speaking with BBC Pidgin^[1], the
mother of two explained that he met Itu when she was 19 and they
eventually got along in a serious relationship.

Rose said when she took him to her family house, they vehemently
opposed her choice of man for marriage, citing his disability.

“My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. We
started dating when I was 19-year-old. I was in senior secondary
school two (SS2) when I met him,” she said.

“The first time he talked to me, I turned down his advances. The
next day, he sent his friends to Ughelli, Delta state, where I was
living at the time to plead with me on his behalf. It was at that
point that I agreed to date him. After that, he came to meet me and
we got along in a serious relationship.

“When I took my boyfriend to my family house, they felt bad.
They even slapped and cursed me before chasing both of us away from
the compound.

“They were questioning why I chose to marry such person when
there is no one in the family with similar condition. So, they
insisted that I cannot marry the man but I told them that he is the
one that I want to spend the rest of my life with.”

Rose said she has no regret being in a relationship with Itu
despite the fact that he is not financially buoyant.

“I don’t see my husband as someone with disability or without
complete body. I have not had any regret being in a relationship
with him because he is caring, supportive, and knows how to make me
happy with sweet words. I don’t really consider the fact that he
has no money to give me,” she added.

On his part, Itu explained how Rose has been a blessing to him,
adding that his life would have been miserable without her.

“If my wife isn’t with me, life would have been miserable for
me. When she agreed to date me, I didn’t have money and it’s not
like I have much to give her even now, but she is still with me. I
can’t fathom what really makes her love me that much. It’s
something I cannot comprehend but I believe it’s God’s way of doing
things,” he said.

The 29-year-old disclosed that he was not born with his current
disability, noting that he discovered he could not walk again at
the age of four.

“My current situation wasn’t inborn. I was four years old when
it happened. My mother told me that while I was playing, I started
crying all of a sudden but nobody knew what happened to me. So, I
was rushed to the hospital where the doctor confirmed that I won’t
be able to work again because my two legs had seized,” he said.

According to him, the family survives on alms given to him,
proceeds from Rose’s groundnut business as well as support from her
mother.

“I call her my wife because she has given birth to children for
me. Anytime I have money, I would pay her bride price. My wife is
someone that knows how to advise me. The way she respects me makes
me love her the more,” he added.