25th Wedding Anniversary: Feminism Tag Is What Tears Marriage Apart — Mrs. Faustina Ubani

The former First Vice-President of the Nigerian Bar Association
and human rights lawyer, Mr. Monday Ubani, had during the weekend
celebrated his 25th wedding anniversary.

Nairalaw, reports that with songs, dance, joy, and
prayers from fathers of faith, the Ubanis rededicated their wedding
to the glory of God and the blessing of humanity.

“In 1997, God gave us our first child in the person of Obinna
who is now a qualified lawyer. The following year, this same God
gave us another boy, Chidindu who by the grace of God is a
qualified engineer doing his youth service. And then the third
child, a girl who is currently in university and the last born who
is my replica, his name is Ebube is in the secondary school.” Ubani
narrated.

He poured glowing and warmly enthusiastic praise on his
wife.

According to Ubani, she is virtuous and she respects him. He
said he likes food and she knows how to make it.

He said, “my wife believes so much in God, my wife loves God,
she is a virtuous woman, a woman who respects the husband and shows
wisdom in matrimony. She is a woman who takes care of my children,
a woman who makes good food.

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“I like good food and she knows how to make it. God has used her
in many ways to bless my marriage. When you have a peaceful home
you will be able to give your best in society. It’s been God all
the way and I return all the praises to Him as the beginning and
end of my life.”

Mrs. Ubani on her part disclosed the secret behind the success
of her marriage. She said, it is all about understanding and
tolerance

“It’s been an interesting journey. Marriage is about
understanding and tolerance. I am used to being with a lawyer and I
understand the challenges that come with being a lawyer. I told
myself something very early and that is ‘my marriage must work’
irrespective of whatever comes my way. The kind of job he does
takes him out of the house so I have to ensure that the home is in
place and that the family, inlaws, and everyone is been taken care
of. I made up my mind that I will make the home comfort for him.
When there is wolf outside, there is succour at home.”

She opined that the major challenge facing marriages today is
the tag of feminism. According to her, a man is the head of a
family and the wife must respect him.

She said, “one of the challenges of this period is the tag of
feminism. A man is the head of the family. If you must enjoy your
family, place your husband as the head and respect him, the house
will be a beautiful place. Even if you earn more than your husband,
you must still respect and love him. As the wife, you bring favour
to the man as the Bible says, you are not equal to the man. This is
what this generation is failing to understand.”

She advised ladies to “take a chill pill. “You are not in
competition with anybody. When a man loves, he loves totally unlike
us, ladies. When a man loves, he protects and shields you. Every
reasonable man provides for his family. A woman must know her place
in marriage.

“Have a good rapport with your inlaws. In Africa, you love your
husband, you love your inlaws. Everyone around your husband must be
loved. In my house, everyone, driver, cleaner, everyone eats what
we eat. We eat from the same pot.”

Ubani said he wants to live with his wife, children, and
grandchildren for 100 years.

“I want to live to be 100 years with my wife, children,
grandchildren, and great-grandchildren with me and most
importantly, that we all make heaven.

“The Ultimate Person in my home is God. I know I will account
one day to Him. So when I go out, whether my wife is there or not,
I know I must not bring shame to my home. I am not saying we are
perfect but we must be careful about issues that can break the
home.” he said

The former First Vice-President of the Nigerian Bar Association
and human rights lawyer, Mr. Monday Ubani, had during the weekend
celebrated his 25th wedding anniversary.

Nairalaw, reports that with songs, dance, joy, and
prayers from fathers of faith, the Ubanis rededicated their wedding
to the glory of God and the blessing of humanity.

“In 1997, God gave us our first child in the person of Obinna
who is now a qualified lawyer. The following year, this same God
gave us another boy, Chidindu who by the grace of God is a
qualified engineer doing his youth service. And then the third
child, a girl who is currently in university and the last born who
is my replica, his name is Ebube is in the secondary school.” Ubani
narrated.

He poured glowing and warmly enthusiastic praise on his
wife.

According to Ubani, she is virtuous and she respects him. He
said he likes food and she knows how to make it.

He said, “my wife believes so much in God, my wife loves God,
she is a virtuous woman, a woman who respects the husband and shows
wisdom in matrimony. She is a woman who takes care of my children,
a woman who makes good food.

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“I like good food and she knows how to make it. God has used her
in many ways to bless my marriage. When you have a peaceful home
you will be able to give your best in society. It’s been God all
the way and I return all the praises to Him as the beginning and
end of my life.”

Mrs. Ubani on her part disclosed the secret behind the success
of her marriage. She said, it is all about understanding and
tolerance

“It’s been an interesting journey. Marriage is about
understanding and tolerance. I am used to being with a lawyer and I
understand the challenges that come with being a lawyer. I told
myself something very early and that is ‘my marriage must work’
irrespective of whatever comes my way. The kind of job he does
takes him out of the house so I have to ensure that the home is in
place and that the family, inlaws, and everyone is been taken care
of. I made up my mind that I will make the home comfort for him.
When there is wolf outside, there is succour at home.”

She opined that the major challenge facing marriages today is
the tag of feminism. According to her, a man is the head of a
family and the wife must respect him.

She said, “one of the challenges of this period is the tag of
feminism. A man is the head of the family. If you must enjoy your
family, place your husband as the head and respect him, the house
will be a beautiful place. Even if you earn more than your husband,
you must still respect and love him. As the wife, you bring favour
to the man as the Bible says, you are not equal to the man. This is
what this generation is failing to understand.”

She advised ladies to “take a chill pill. “You are not in
competition with anybody. When a man loves, he loves totally unlike
us, ladies. When a man loves, he protects and shields you. Every
reasonable man provides for his family. A woman must know her place
in marriage.

“Have a good rapport with your inlaws. In Africa, you love your
husband, you love your inlaws. Everyone around your husband must be
loved. In my house, everyone, driver, cleaner, everyone eats what
we eat. We eat from the same pot.”

Ubani said he wants to live with his wife, children, and
grandchildren for 100 years.

“I want to live to be 100 years with my wife, children,
grandchildren, and great-grandchildren with me and most
importantly, that we all make heaven.

“The Ultimate Person in my home is God. I know I will account
one day to Him. So when I go out, whether my wife is there or not,
I know I must not bring shame to my home. I am not saying we are
perfect but we must be careful about issues that can break the
home.” he said